Design the secure love and confident life you choose,
by design, not by chance.
Whether you're ready for a supportive community journey
or a private, personalized transformation, you're in the right place.
WHO IS THIS FOR
If you're tired of second-guessing yourself, falling for unavailable men, or wondering if healthy, lasting love is really meant for you, then you are in the right place.
My Secure Era is for thoughtful, growth-oriented women who are ready to build emotional security, lasting self-trust, and love that feels as safe as it is starting from within.
WHAT MAKES THIS DIFFERENT
Most dating advice focuses on what to say, when to text, or how to impress. This isn’t that.
In My Secure Era, we help you transform the internal patterns that keep pulling you toward emotional unavailability, anxiety, or self-doubt, so you can experience love with confidence, clarity, and security. For good.
ABOUT US
The Availablity Awards
Self reflection often starts by understanding past patterns.
Through this eBook + workbook, you can gently unravel why past relationships didn't work out.
This is a primer in what it means to be secure vs insecure in romantic relationships.
Each chapter contains interactive elements to shift from epiphany to empowerment.
SECURE
LOVE
COMPASS
Tune in each week to hear how others are leaning into what they love and following their passions to build a life of total fulfillment. You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, and you’ll finish each episode motivated to live life more authentically.
FIND CLARITY
Welcome
I'M ALEXANDRA
I’ve come to believe that emotional pain isn't solved solo.
After 10 years studying psychology and attachment theory and living through my own mindset transformation, I created a clear, compassionate path for women ready to build emotional security, self-worth, and love, by design.
I believe your dream life doesn’t come from hoping; it comes from healing and creating it intentionally. I’m honored to walk with you.
Secure School
An annual program designed to rebuild secure attachment.
Emotional Security
Learn to trust yourself deeply and set healthy boundaries.
Self Worth Mastery
Build unwavering confidence that doesn't depend on anyone else's approval.
Love Designed by You
Filter relationships through self-trust, not fear, to create lasting connection.
