For Women Who
Refuse to Settle

 

If you’re done waiting, chasing, or shrinking yourself for love, this masterclass is your turning point.

  • Spot the hidden patterns sabotaging your love life.
  • See why dating apps feel like swiping through unavailable men.
  • Discover why “DIY healing” hasn’t worked for you.
  • Learn what it really takes to break the heartbreak cycle.

You already know you’re meant for more. The 12 Stop Anti-Hero Tour shows you why you’ve been stuck in old patterns, and how to finally claim the identity of someone who chooses secure, lasting love.

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What You’ll Learn Inside The Masterclass

You’ve tried advice, tips, and quick fixes. But without real accountability, feedback, and skill-building, most paths fall short, leading you straight into one of these traps:

Rock Bottom 

That emotional crash where you swear off love completely, only to climb out and repeat the same patterns. It’s the lowest point and also the most common reset button.

Conflict Avoidance

Every disagreement feels like a dead end. Instead of working through issues, partners shut down, withdraw, or vanish. No conflict or repair makes intimacy impossible.

Solo Healing

Going it alone without accountability, feedback, or intentional skill-building, change never sticks. Inspiration fades, information piles up, and old patterns quietly return.

Breadcrumbs

Surviving on tiny crumbs of attention: a late-night text, a half-plan, a vague “someday.” You try to turn scraps into a feast, but you’re still left emotionally hungry for real connection.

Bandaids

They talk the talk: “I’ve done the work,” But when real intimacy shows up, so do their defenses. It looks promising until you realize the healing was surface-level at best.

Situationships

That murky middle ground where you’re “more than friends but less than chosen.” It feels like could be love but leaves you anxious, hoping, and never quite safe.

Smart Women Don’t Leave Love to Chance


Your heart deserves more than just winging it. With the right system, you can approach love with confidence, structure, and certainty.

Step 1

Spot the hidden detours keeping you stuck

Step 2

Discover the structured path to secure love

Step 3

See why success is inevitable if you follow the system

MEET THE MASTERCLASS HOST

I'm Alexandra Vélez


My path has spanned product design, emotional intelligence, and behavior science, fields where creating real change isn’t just theory, it’s tested in the real world. From designing for 41 million users in tech, to becoming an IAT Certified Coach, to studying hundreds of books over the past decade, my work blends multiple disciplines into one mission: building systems that actually change behavior. Secure School is the result, a framework that combines the precision of design with the warmth of human connection.

I built Secure School so heartbreak doesn’t have to feel like a lonely puzzle you solve in silence. Too many women are left piecing together advice, hiding their pain, or pretending they’re fine. You deserve a safe place to rebuild, with a clear framework and a community that understands you without judgment.

A Safe Place to Learn, Connect, and Grow

Past workshops combined warmth, inclusivity, and real takeaways, proving growth can be both powerful and fun.

"The workshop delivered exactly what I hoped for  clear, relatable, and surprisingly fun. The atmosphere felt safe and supportive, and the host’s warmth left a lasting impression."


Jane H.

I felt genuinely safe and seen. From start to finish, it kept my attention. The host created such a welcoming space that I left feeling lighter and more understood.

Janet D.

My Gift to You for Joining Live

 

When you show up live, you’ll get more than just clarity, you’ll also receive a free digital copy of The Availability Awards ($25.99 on Amazon) as my thank-you for taking this step.

 

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You’re Truly Seen

With only 5 women per session, every seat is intentional. This small group format keeps the experience safe, warm, and judgment-free.

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